A LETTER TO MY RECENTLY DEPARTED SPOUSE

MY DARLING D –I miss you so

The past few years I have been focused on your health. I was always conscious if you were experiencing shortness of breath and concerned if you would have enough energy to carry through the days  agenda. I know you thought I was a nudge, a nag and carrying on like an over protective mother hen. You were right. Yes–I was so focussed on your health issues that I lost sight of what a truly remarkable person you were. Your unique qualities were rekindled in my mind from the outpouring of love and the abundance of  comments, emails, telephone calls and posts left on the funeral chapels web site, all extolling your virtues. Everyone has their special fond memories about you. You touched so many lives–the old , the very young and everybody in between. Even dogs gravitated to you. Your warm smile, your mischievous grin, your infectious laugh, your trusting non judgemental nature, your empathy, were qualities that were reiterated by many.

Oh sure; you weren’t perfect. You loved to kibbutz and you were a bit of a bluffer and an instigator, a little stubborn and you chose to be ignorant about your health issues and how a washing machine works. I think these imperfections made you even more endearing.

We had a good life together along with our children, adored grand children , relatives and friends. D., I cancelled the venue that we had booked for a very special party that was in the planning stage. No, there won’t be a big bash celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary, However we will be celebrating together in my heart. D. we will never be apart, because you will always be in my heart. I love you .

 

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EP Snider’s dream came to fruition when she published a book at age 69. She continues to share her thoughts and stories with a humorous twist on Wordpress and Facebook.
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6 Responses to A LETTER TO MY RECENTLY DEPARTED SPOUSE

  1. Pearl L. Dacks says:

    Elaine, Beautifully written, heartfelt and honest. I am so sorry for your loss. Life will go on, not the same, never the same but a different kind of life that can look back on all of the years spent together and now come to a conclusion of sorts. You have the power to forge ahead in this new portion of your life, different yes, but rewarding in all its guises. You have Family, you have friends and you have admirers, many of them willing to help you in the dark days and celebrate the new version of Elaine….call on them and call on yourself….write more fiercely with all the passion that is within you……
    It’s frequently said “In better days”….believe in it, hard as it may be right now….

    Thinking of you,
    pearlD.
    17 May 2014

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  2. merles1212 says:

    Elaine, I was saddened to hear of David’s passing. What you wrote is such a beautiful tribute to him and a wonderful testimony to your long marriage. Please know that my thoughts are with you. I hope that memories of David’s love and life will be a blessing for you always.

    I’m sending big hugs across the miles.
    Merle

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  3. Beautiful and heart wrenching, Ep. My heart aches for you dear lady. I can’t know what you’re feeling and can offer no consolation for such a tremendous loss. Only my sympathy. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Blessings and hugs to you. Elizabeth

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