MY DARLING D –I miss you so

The past few years I have been focused on your health. I was always conscious if you were experiencing shortness of breath and concerned if you would have enough energy to carry through the days  agenda. I know you thought I was a nudge, a nag and carrying on like an over protective mother hen. You were right. Yes–I was so focussed on your health issues that I lost sight of what a truly remarkable person you were. Your unique qualities were rekindled in my mind from the outpouring of love and the abundance of  comments, emails, telephone calls and posts left on the funeral chapels web site, all extolling your virtues. Everyone has their special fond memories about you. You touched so many lives–the old , the very young and everybody in between. Even dogs gravitated to you. Your warm smile, your mischievous grin, your infectious laugh, your trusting non judgemental nature, your empathy, were qualities that were reiterated by many.

Oh sure; you weren’t perfect. You loved to kibbutz and you were a bit of a bluffer and an instigator, a little stubborn and you chose to be ignorant about your health issues and how a washing machine works. I think these imperfections made you even more endearing.

We had a good life together along with our children, adored grand children , relatives and friends. D., I cancelled the venue that we had booked for a very special party that was in the planning stage. No, there won’t be a big bash celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary, However we will be celebrating together in my heart. D. we will never be apart, because you will always be in my heart. I love you .


About epsnider

E.P SNIDER is the pen name that I used to publish "WHY ME- a memoir". I used a pen name so as not to embarrass my spouse, my offspring, their offspring, my grand dogs and my friends. A dream came true when I had my first book published at the age of sixty-nine. "WHY ME? "is a collection of memoirs recounted from various stages of my life and the lives of those that I love or like at least some of the time. Most of the incidences are humorous-some are not. I am a senior but I feel more like a junior except for the aches and pains. When I look in the mirror I often see my mother or some other aging lady with wrinkles and sun spots. The amount and depth of wrinkling depends on which mirror I am looking into, the degree of lighting and how well my skin absorbed the moisturizing cream that day. Although I am mature in years, maturity is definitely not one of my virtues. If something strikes me as funny I get the giggles. Most of my family and many of our friends have a rather warped sense of humour-so I giggle a lot. Laughter plays an important role in our lives. My friends were a significant inspiration for me to begin my writing career. For the past number of years hubby and I have been spending part of the winter season in Florida to escape the sometimes bitter cold climate in Toronto Canada. Every year I send emails to those left behind. To my delight they find my emails to be hysterical and a cure for their winter doldrums. They compare my style of writing to that of the late Erma Bombeck. For those of you not familiar with the author-- she was a beloved American humorist in the 1970's and 1980's. I have loved literature and creative writing from an early age. I spent some of my growing up years in Alberta and won a prize for a best poem commemorating Alberta's bicentennial year. My grade seven teacher was a large and forceful woman, with white hair and course bristly white chin hairs to match. We were all intimidated by her and thus listened intently as she drilled us about parsing sentences and adverbs and adjectives. She provided me with a good basis of the English language. In addition to "Why Me" I have had a short essay published in a book of assorted memoirs by Canadian woman. I currently write for our Toronto Condominium newspaper. I hope to do more writing, although I am not sure if my family can cope with any more of my meltdowns when blocks of written material mysteriously disappear off of my computor. I admit I am computor and electronically challenged, but I will persevere. - - - - - - - - - - - Writing has been a passion of mine through out my life. Ever since I took a step forward and entered into the world of computers, a new world of opened up for me. I found myself engrossed in writing emails with lengthy updates about my life's recent highlights. To my delight, people found me...funny! I then offered to write for my condo newsletter, and I recently had a short memoir published. For the last several years I became glued to my computer, transferring my hand-written life adventure notes to an actual story of my life's defining moments. Finally, at the age of 69, I was done... I wrote a book! AND it's actually published. People are reading it. People are enjoying it. I am thrilled! Plus, it's one of the greatest gifts I could ever give my family. Talk about a dream come true. My advice to you: Think positive, keep your eye on the prize, and you too can enjoy as your dreams and desires come to fruition.
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  1. Pearl L. Dacks says:

    Elaine, Beautifully written, heartfelt and honest. I am so sorry for your loss. Life will go on, not the same, never the same but a different kind of life that can look back on all of the years spent together and now come to a conclusion of sorts. You have the power to forge ahead in this new portion of your life, different yes, but rewarding in all its guises. You have Family, you have friends and you have admirers, many of them willing to help you in the dark days and celebrate the new version of Elaine….call on them and call on yourself….write more fiercely with all the passion that is within you……
    It’s frequently said “In better days”….believe in it, hard as it may be right now….

    Thinking of you,
    17 May 2014


  2. merles1212 says:

    Elaine, I was saddened to hear of David’s passing. What you wrote is such a beautiful tribute to him and a wonderful testimony to your long marriage. Please know that my thoughts are with you. I hope that memories of David’s love and life will be a blessing for you always.

    I’m sending big hugs across the miles.


  3. Beautiful and heart wrenching, Ep. My heart aches for you dear lady. I can’t know what you’re feeling and can offer no consolation for such a tremendous loss. Only my sympathy. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Blessings and hugs to you. Elizabeth


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