Missing marriage licence needed after death of spouse

In Ontario, Canada before one is eligible to collect Canadian Pension benefits after the death of a spouse-one must fill out an application and submit the death certificate of the deceased as well as the marriage licence to the government. My dear D. passed away near the beginning of May,  just shy of our celebrating fifty years of marriage. Over those nearly fifty years many things got misplaced or lost. It didn’t help that a few years previous we had downsized from a house to a condo. Our marriage certificate was one of those things that couldn’t be found. I didn’t realize it couldn’t be found until I started to look for it.I looked high and low and low and high–in cupboards, and drawers and shelves, and in D’s office that I had closed and relocated to our living room, and in our locker room and in box’s stashed from sight under our bed. But alas, to no avail.  It had simply disappeared.

Finally my accountant { a family friend} advised that I should apply for a copy of the  document. This proved to be a lengthy time consuming process and one that involved, after contacting the correct government division, filling out a long application and paying a fee for this service. Once the application was received it took 15 business days to process which translated into a little over there weeks. Finally at last it arrived. It was mailed back to the government  and I breathed a sigh of relief . Ah- at last one more thing I could cross off  my list of multiple tasks to be done after the loss of a family member.

That afternoon I was in D’s den or man cave, looking for a spot to store some memorabilia that I had brought home from his office. I opened a cupboard. There were some books and a smallish  plastic storage container labeled business papers that I had not bothered to open.I  don’t know why, but I decided to open it that afternoon. There nestled among some ancient bank statements was the elusive marriage licence. “Why- Me ?”  I am still waiting to see if I will receive any benefits. I now plan to put our original marriage licence in a safe and accessible place to trigger cherished memories of our fifty years together.

 

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EP Snider’s dream came to fruition when she published a book at age 69. She continues to share her thoughts and stories with a humorous twist on Wordpress and Facebook.
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5 Responses to Missing marriage licence needed after death of spouse

  1. I’ve lost several friends in the last year and am so sad to hear you lost your spouse recently (in no way comparable of course). Also sorry for the bureaucratic headache that you didn’t need at this time. Take care of yourself, be selfish and try to get lots of sleep.

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    • epsnider says:

      I have very many widowed friends also whose husbands have recently passed away. We are each others bereavement and support group.

      On another note i have started to read “A PLACE IN THE WORLD” on my I pad. It is a delightful story. My problem is I still have difficulty concentrating on reading, writing and television for more than short periods. I try to read in bed at night but I am so emotionally drained that i fall asleep after a few minutes but I do look forward to reading it in its entirety.I hope you and your family are well.

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  2. epsnider says:

    Thank you so much for your kind words.

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  3. So glad you found it. And hope you get the benefits. Take care. Elizabeth

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  4. epsnider says:

    Thanks Elizabeth. Still waiting

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